Single yet Not Alone - Be Your Own Valentine

So, we all know what Valentine’s Day is (or at least I assume) whether you celebrate it or not. Valentine’s Day is a day that couples embrace to celebrate their love for each other and reflect on the journey of their relationship. Some couples may do this by exchanging gifts, splurging on a gateway or by simply spending quality time with each other. BUT what if you are like me and are single during this “special” season? Should you feel inadequate, lonely, rejected and unwanted? Well I have a special message for you – Embrace your Season of Singleness.

Being single is such a beautiful thing and just like marriage, it is also a gift from God. How so? You may ask. Well look at it this way, when you are single, you have the power to make decisions that does not require approval by someone else. If you love to travel and see new places like I do, you can just pack a bag and be gone for as long a you please! But most importantly, you get the opportunity to focus on self-growth, your goals, passions and God’s purpose for your life. Though being in a relationship is also beautiful, it also comes with its distractions, because it’s no longer just about you, it is now about the TWO of you. You now have to compromise, consult and consider. Now, is something wrong with this? Absolutely not! It is necessary in a relationship or marriage. But the point I am making, is that you can’t be too eager to jump into one season when you have not yet perfected or gotten the most out of another. A lot of times us as singles can be so caught up in the idea of marriage and being in a relationship that we miss out on all the other exciting things that life has to offer. Your marriage will only be as good as your singleness. So, with that said, if all you do is sulk and complain while you are single, you best believe that you are going to sulk and complain while you are married. You will always want more. But if you make the effort to make your singleness fun and exciting, your marriage will also be fun and exciting.

How about Galentine's Day instead!

There are many married couples that wish they were single again. Sometimes it is because their idea of being complete is being with someone else. If you think this way, I am sorry to say, but you will be disappointed. Allow me to remind you, that your spouse does not complete you, they complement you. You must be whole by yourself before you are joined with someone else. Another reason why some married couples wish they were single again, is because they were so eager to get into a relationship that they just settled for the next available thing and now have regrets. Have you ever settled for the next available thing? That is one of the BIGGEST mistakes that you could ever make in your life. Never settle and make lifetime commitments based on your temporary season. Though you are single, you are NEVER alone.

To all the singles out there who yearn for a partner, I just want to remind you that you are loved, you are enough, you are talented, you are beautifully and wonderfully made in God’s image. Live in your NOW, embrace your singleness. Your Mr. or Mrs. Right will come at the right time. Patience is a virtue.